Sex Addiction Coach

Is an unhealthy preoccupation with sex damaging your relationships or endangering your personal health? Are you spending so much time looking at pornography or searching for someone to hook up with online that you worry your partner, family, or employer will find out? Do you often feel depressed and hopeless because, try as you may, you can’t stop masturbating, going to massage parlors, or having anonymous sex? 

Perhaps your sexual behavior has recently come to light and you’re being encouraged—or even forced—to get help. Conversely, maybe your actions are in conflict with your faith or personal values, but you don’t have the support of your partner or know who you can safely turn to for help. 

If you are having trouble with compulsive sexual urges or you suspect that you may be developing a sex or porn addiction, it can be a lonely and confusing experience. For instance, one moment you could be completely consumed by the desire for sex; then the next, you might be disgusted and repulsed just by the idea of it. After an episode, you might avoid your partner altogether or lean on them excessively to emotionally repair the internal wounds to your self. Or maybe, despite the physical connections you make, you don’t know how to cultivate real intimacy because, ultimately, you use sex as a shortcut to emotional attachment.

I know that, right now, you are probably afraid to ask for help. But working with a sex addiction coach can prove to yourself that you are not alone and that there is a community of support out there to help you heal and move forward. If you would like to free yourself from guilt and shame and start living the way you want to, I can help.

Sexually Compulsive Behaviors Are On The Rise Across The Board

As a recovering sex and love addict myself, I can tell you that the challenges we face are far more common than you might think. In fact, according to Dr. Patrick Carnes—founder of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP)—sex and porn addiction are reaching epidemic levels. And though these issues have traditionally affected younger men, we are increasingly seeing more women and older males struggle with these behaviors.

One of the reasons why the prevalence is so high is simply due to the overwhelming abundance of pornography online. And then, there’s the anonymity and ease of access that the internet provides. Combined, these forces make for the perfect breeding ground for addiction. Similarly, the ability to negotiate sexual encounters using nothing but a cell phone and one of the infinite hookup sites is driving sexual disorders and compulsive behaviors. 

Moreover, men often carry around an underlying sense of inadequacy or anger toward themselves, so they turn to sex for validation. Children are also increasingly exposed to explicit imagery that distorts their perception of what a healthy sexual relationship looks like. And our society puts a constant emphasis on the pursuit of the perfect body image and the ideal sexual partner. We photoshop appearances, airbrush out imperfections, and sensationalize sex in music, movies, and entertainment. All of these factors fuel obsessive behaviors like gasoline feeds a fire!

And though societal misunderstandings surrounding sexual addiction can often drive a person into the shadows, I am living proof that recovery truly is possible. I want you to know that no matter how powerless or lost you may feel, you are not alone. With the help of a compassionate sex addiction coach—one who knows what you are going through—you can take control of your life, repair your relationships, and align your actions with your values.

Working With A Sex Addiction Coach Can Give You Agency Over How You Live

Sex addiction coaching offers you an opportunity and space in which to completely be yourself without shame or judgment. Whereas sex addiction therapy might focus on pathologizing or digging into deeper core elements of your suffering, coaching concentrates more on taking concrete steps to creating change. And because coaching is more flexible and less formal, I can apply a more direct, hands-on approach to healing than compared to a traditional sex addiction therapist, such as being available for support outside normal office hours.

Frequently, people feel bewildered once they begin to recognize the signs of sex or pornography addiction in their behavior, and it sends their world spinning out of control. However, with the right support and direction, coaching can give you stability, clarity, and the ability to develop a succinct roadmap for finding wholeness and moving forward. 

We’ll begin by simply exploring where you are today, what your goals are for tomorrow, and how we can rewrite your story together. In sessions, we may look at any potential internal or external obstacles that may stand in the way of recovery while devising strategies for holding yourself accountable and staying on track. We’ll work on creating a proactive plan for preventing relapse as well as setting SMART goals for the future (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bound). 

I can introduce you to healthy ways of experiencing anger and help you learn how to live with appreciation and gratitude. And because most sexual disorders are intimacy-based, I can also help you re-establish your capacity for real emotional connection and attachment. Ultimately, my goal for you is whole life recovery, embodying all the physical, mental, emotional, social, and spiritual elements of complete wellness. 

I offer a forward-looking, success-oriented approach to coaching that acknowledges you as the expert on yourself. Rather than just listening to your story and feeding you manufactured solutions, I’ll help you discover the answers, truths, and strengths that you already possess. One of the tools I use to accomplish that is motivational interviewing, a process of natural conversation and guided self-discovery exercises that can awaken internal awareness. 

Drawing from the work of Dr. Patrick Carnes, I can also help you change underlying internal messages that are driving negative behaviors and replace them with positive affirmations. I offer therapeutic nature coaching for calming the overstimulated brain and the nervous system so that your mind and body aren’t always in overdrive. And as a Reiki master, I can use energy healing to reduce emotional instability and promote a peaceful state of mind. Additionally, to make my services more accessible and convenient, I offer online addiction recovery coaching as well as in-person sessions. 

Overcoming an addiction of any sort is difficult enough, but going at it alone only prolongs the secrecy and suffering. With my experience as a coach and a former sex and love addict myself, I can help you lift the weight that has been keeping you stuck so you can come out of the shadows and find peace with yourself. In time, you can rediscover healthy sexuality, cultivate real intimacy, and embrace a love for yourself that will enable you to find true joy and fulfillment.

Perhaps you want to work with a sex addiction coach but still have some concerns...

I’m worried that someone, especially my partner, will find out I’m seeking help.

Our sessions will always be held to the highest standards of confidentiality, and the only people who will know you are in coaching will be you and those you choose to tell. If you are concerned that your partner will find out regardless, we can discuss ways of dealing with the issue if it does in fact come up in your relationship. If you’re still worried, I also offer online sex addiction coaching services that make it easy to meet with me whenever and wherever you feel most secure.  

I don’t know if I am ready because I am being forced into this by my partner.

Ultimatums can be intimidating, especially when it involves baring your soul to a stranger. But I encourage you to give it a trial run of just three sessions and see how you feel. We can begin gently and proceed at a pace that is completely up to you. Remember, my philosophy is that you are the expert on yourself, so you will always be in the driver’s seat. After three sessions, if you still don’t feel like it is right for you, then there’s no harm done and perhaps you can come back when you feel ready.

I’m not getting much support from my partner. Can a sex addiction coach still help?

I understand from personal experience what it is like not having your spouse behind you as you go through recovery. And although it would be nice to have your partner’s support, it’s really not necessary because you can achieve tremendous success simply working with me. What’s more, oftentimes those accomplishments have greater meaning because you didn’t have your partner’s confidence. In turn, it can sharpen your sense of independence and competence for facing other challenges on your own.

Let Me Help You Heal And Become Whole Again

As a former sex and love addict who’s been in recovery since 2008, the power of my approach comes from my personal background. I’ve been a sponsor, peer support, 12-step-retreat speaker and facilitator, and a coach, helping people discover their innate worth and establish true intimacy in their relationships. If you would like to start on the road to healing, please call 303 725 6299, or click below to schedule your free 60-minute connection call.

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