Healing from Sexual Compulsion

A Transformational Community for Men

Are you isolated and alone in your struggles? Do you have a sense that no one could understand? Are your challenges becoming more and more sexualized in nature? If this is you, then this group was formed with you in mind. This group is for men who have a lot of questions about their sexual struggles.

Because we aren’t taught or role-modeled how to have a healthy relationship with emotions, many men sexualize their feelings. In other words, sex (sexual thinking, fantasy, and behavior) becomes more obsessive or compulsive than is healthy. Sex is healthy when it is an expression of intimacy and care for another. For many of us, sex has become anything but that. And this is where being with other like-minded men can be a game changer.

One of the most powerful aspects of being in a group is collective transformation. As you listen to and interact with other men, you’ll begin to see that you’re not alone. And that’s profoundly healing. As you take steps toward building trust, you’ll find yourself not only accepted but embraced. As others reflect what they see in you, shame begins to disappear. Isolation and loneliness fade. And the healing begins.

You may have heard the term ‘Band of Brothers’ used to describe the soldiers who landed at Normandy on D-Day. These warriors faced extreme challenges and a paralyzing fear of the unknown. Through brave determination, unyielding belief in their cause, and commitment to a collective goal, they achieved their mission. The band of brothers shared an experience that no one else could possibly relate to. They could tell others about it. But only they could really understand what it was like. And that’s what makes their group so special.

I think about those brave men and the bond they share when I consider my own journey. In 2008, I stepped into the unknown when I sought answers for my sexual struggles. My counselor suggested that I connect with other men facing similar challenges, so I joined his men’s therapy group. At first, I couldn’t see what getting to know other men could possibly have to do with quitting compulsive masturbation. But seeing others having success, I decided to give it a sincere effort. Not only did I begin to experience my own success, but I also formed deep and lasting relationships with my brothers in the group. I stayed in the men’s group for over 3 years. The sense of togetherness that I felt in the group was transformative in my healing journey. It was a completely unexpected gift, something I never knew was possible. To be in a group of men facing a challenge that no one else could relate to. To be in a group that really understood me and how I thought. To be in a group where it became apparent I was not alone. To be in a band of brothers.

Addiction/compulsion is about loss of connection to the Self - to who we really are. When we leave our Self behind we lose touch with our bodies and our emotions. We reach for something outside us to fill what’s missing inside us. To heal is to come back to the Self and come home to the body. We feel safe in our own skin, and we find inside what we so relentlessly searched for on the outside.

Many of us began using sexual behaviors to soothe feelings of loneliness and disconnection that began as children. We felt like we didn’t fit in. Over time, the repetition of these behaviors began to separate us from what was really going on in our bodies. Now as adults, we are mostly unaware of our internal landscape - so much is happening beneath the level of conscious awareness. 

In this group, you will learn skills for reconnecting to your body and to sensations and feelings which have been numbed by many years of repetitive sexual behaviors. You will discover that as we come home to the body, we begin to heal the wounded and disowned parts of us whose cries for attention have gone unnoticed for so long. And that’s where real change happens.

Change can happen when you commit to it and are willing to work at it. But deep, lasting, fundamental transformation happens in relationship to others…in connection…in community.

Be seen. 

Experience belonging. 

Rediscover passion. 

Let the colors of your world come back to life.

Currently welcoming new members! Get all the deets here!!

What: Healing from Sexual Compulsion: A Transformational Community for Men

When: Mondays 12:30pm ET/11:30am CT/10:30am MT/9:30am PT for 90 minutes.

Where: Online in the comfort of your home or office.

How: We work through life together and share rich interaction and experience with each other. Following a time of check-in and getting current, there is a short educational presentation on a topic pertinent to growth and healing.

Fine print: $50 per session billed weekly via credit card. To aid in accountability and build trust within the group, a minimum 12-week commitment to the group is required. As an additional measure of accountability, credit card on file will be charged regardless of your presence or absence from the group - but we really do want to see you every session. Of course, exceptions will be made for extenuating circumstances.

Come join us now.

Your facilitator

Group facilitator Brian Klink of Living Color Healing is an experienced, talented facilitator, recovery coach, and somatic coach. Brian has been developing and hosting recovery-based workshops at Boulder, CO, area treatment centers for more than three years. In working on his own recovery, Brian spent many years as a participant in recovery-based therapeutic groups where he developed a keen passion for the transformative power of the group experience. Because he has felt the pain and loss of addiction and the challenge of recovery, Brian can relate. As a professional in addiction recovery, he has honed his compassion for those who are suffering through his training in trauma and its impact on addictive and compulsive behavior. See more about Brian here.

Have questions about this transformational community? Please fill out the contact form below or email me at livingcolorhealing@gmail.com.